Let’s Face it! Everyone Wants To Have A Great Relationship!
So why is it so complicated? The biggest mistake couples make when seeking a loving relationship is not knowing exactly how to be totally committed to that relationship. Relationships are not hard, but making a commitment to that relationship can sometime be just that. I will highlight a few tips on how to do just that..”Commit” to a Relationship.
The Way You Communicate is Key!
Be a great listener. This may sound simple, but it is not. Listening attentively to another person must be intentional. You can learn so much about the person just by listening attentively, and observing their body language and gestures as they are speaking.
The meaning of their words can totally change.
Take time to look them in the face. When observing eye contact, ask yourself, “What is this person really saying”? What is their eyes telling me? What gestures are they making when that say it?
A person can tell if you are in the game with them or not.
A person can tell if you are listening just by observing your eye contact. If you are looking at objects in the room instead of the person speaking, you are preoccupied with something else. So the next time you are talking to a person of interest, and you want to have a great relationship with them, give them your undevided attention, look them in the face and give them eye contact.
Be 100% Focused on them.
There are many things you can do to let the person know that you value them, and what they have to say. Don’t attempt to think ahead to where you think the conversation might be going. Wait until that person says everything that they have to say, then you can speak what’s on your mind freely. This will become a collaborate conversation, and what you will see is that it will be smooth and informative on both sides. What people want most, is just the respect in knowing that they have been heard.
Hold your questions to the end of the conversations. If you must be critical about something that the person has shared, share all the good news about what you have heard first. This will keep the excitement in the game of the conversation, and the person is now ready to welcome your constructive criticism (if there are any). Most of the time people will welcome areas of improvement, so when done in the right tone and manner, it is always a good thing.
Remember, You are not them! So, when giving feedback to that person, don’t lead with words like this…. “This is what I would do”, instead, say something like “How do you feel about saying something like…”? That way the person will feel comfortable about expressing a response like… yes, no, good idea, great, or no, that is just not me.
Don’t Set Too High Expectations For a Person to Reach! Keep it simple. Statistics will agree that the simplier the expectations are set on defining what makes a great relationship, the easier it will be to maintain that good relationship. No one can be everything to another person. They are not perfect, and neither are you. Hopefully you are both on a road striving to do better at doing all the above areas. If you feel you need a step-by-step guide to get you there, I would suggest you subscribe to my upcoming course, “How to Attract the Man that is Right for you”? Click to learn more and enroll in our next course.