woman talking about how women attract love relationships on a red and yellow posterWomen Attract Men

It sometimes seems that all of life is about relationships. We have relationships with everything we attract knowingly or unknowingly. You are having a relationship  right now while reading this blog and a relationship with me who wrote it. A relationship is some form of “Connection”. So, life is about the connection of relationships”. Whatever we connect to in any way we develop some form of a relationship. Relationships can be wanted, or unwanted. But we attracted it.

And that is why love comes when we least expect it, and strangely when we are not looking for it. I have always enjoyed over the past 35 years of coaching women in the area of marriage and relationships to hear them share their story about how they met the man of their dreams. It never turns out the way they imagined it.  There seems to always be a little twist somewhere that says to them, “This is the way it was supposed to happen”.

Pursuing love never brings the right person to you, and it was never supposed to be that way. Women are not to pursue a man, she is to attract him. So, think about it this way, if you pursue a man, you will draw everything along with him including the kitchen sink. Every man is pursuable. But attracting every man is not possible.

So let the man that is right for you, pursue you. You have heard this saying. We attract everything! Stray dogs, cats, flies and yes, We attract men! When you attract the man that is not right for you into your life, it only creates chaos and unhappiness. So take a moment to look around you. Do you see women attracting men that are right for them, or pursuing the wrong men?

Reflections of your Childhood

On the other hand, the relationship you attract with objects, foods, the weather, homes and with people, all reflect the relationship you have with yourself. The relationship you have with yourself is highly influenced by the relationship you had when you were a child with the people around you. The way the adults reacted to you then is often the way you react to yourself now – both positively and negatively.

Think just for a moment of the words that you used when you were scolding yourself. Aren’t they the same words your parents used when they were scolding you as a child? Now think about what words they used when they were praising you? Are they the same words you use to praise yourself today?

Love is never outside ourselves, it is within us! Don’t insist that love come too fast after you meet a man. You might not be ready for it and begin feeling coerced into it. Don’t settle for anybody and everybody just to have someone. Yes, life can get pretty lonely and just to have companionship, many women sometimes will do drastic things. And that drastic thing can be settling for a man that is not right for her.

So Set Some Standards

  1. What kind of Love do you want to attract? Write it down.
  2. List all the qualities you have in yourself? And you will attract the man who has them.
  3. He is looking for you. You will know him by his qualities.

You may question yourself as to what may be keeping love away. Could it be criticism? Feeling unworthiness? Unreasonable standards? Fear of intimacy? A belief that you are unlovable?

If love showed up on your doorstep today, would you say that you are ready for it? If your answer is no, that is okay. That is why I am here to prepare you with the tools, secrets, principles and strategies that build a healthy, loving relationship with the man that is right for you. Remember,  you only have 30 days! So get ready to nourish love. Be loving, and you will be lovable. Start today being open and receptive to love.