But Will Never Tell You!

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It is one of the oldest secrets in the book about men behaviors. Men will literally beg a woman on the first date to have sex with him, but deep down within he is wishing that she would say “No”.  As women, we often miss the mark when we respond with a “Yes” too quickly with a man in a relationship.

Men are humans too, and they are checking out your qualities and value to the relationship the same as you are checking them out.

Let’s be real for a moment, can we?  If a man takes you out on a first date and pressure you to have an intimate sexual relationship with him. Would you want to see him again?

Most women would say, “Absolutely Not”.  Well, the same applies to men, except women are not (in most cases) the one applying the pressure to have sex. If I have to say this hunderdeths of times over again. Men are looking for long-term relationships with a woman he can trust.

This is not to say that if a woman sleeps with the man on the first date, she can not be trusted. What it is saying is that men find it difficult to build trust in one night stands that ends in the bedroom. He don’t know you, and you don’t know him.  He will always have in his mind this question ” Is she easy, or am I just lucky?” 

Women will agree that when this happens on the first date, somehow the man seems to have a change of heart.  He begin to act differently towards her.  Instead of him being anxious to see her again, he strangly seem to be dragging his foot to find the time to go out on a real date. Dinner and dancing somehow began to be hard to pin him down to. Ask yourself this question, what else does he need to get to know you for?

While this does not apply to all men, it is a golden rule. Never sleep with a man on a first date. Good men are men of standards and integrity say, “Sleeping with a woman on the very first date is a No, No!” He questions the woman’s quality and value if she sleeps with him. He wonders if John Doe could have done the same thing. If a man is looking for a long term relationship with a women, he would most likely keep pursuing someone else.

Question:  I had sex with a guy on the first date. He did contact me again and asked for a date. Can I mentally reject any sex suggestions from him, although I agreed on the first date to allow this to happen?

Response: You always have control over your body. What you did the first time was a choice you made. What you do the second time will also be a choice you should make. It is your decision what that choice will be. I hope this answers that question for you.

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